Sometimes there is no winning....

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Interesting that I had that subject line already. This family of my spouse's really takes the prize. All those women are out to stab each other, and now my BIL's wife has decided to pull me into the fray too, by giving my MIL all the emails I wrote about Kel. Ah yes, I confided in Nanciann alot there for awhile...some time ago. I was angry, and rightfully so--and it is, gee, kinda normal when you lose a spouse to get mad at them. And I was, gloriously so. I told Nanciann (she called me at work to tell me she and Jim were done with us as well) to go for it. If she felt like she had to do that, she wants to hurt the MIL that badly, then go for it.

The thing is, she fails to understand the relationship I have with my MIL. We give each other hell and get over it as we kinda know what is important in life--whatever I told Nanciann, was expressed by me on our long drive back and forth to Amarillo. Enough, at least, to know that Nanciann's action, while they hurt, sure they do, will not destroy me, or my MIL. Yes, my MIL holds her dead son on a pedestal. Is that not normal though? He WAS always the one who did things for her, took care of her, etc. The other two did not. Jim (Nanciann's husband) disappeared for years on us, before Kel ever got sick. And while he was sick, he never knew--not until the day he died.

So now Nanciann has decided to play this game, but I have already smacked it in the bud. She wants to hurt and punish my MIL, but my MIL is stronger than she seems. Sad, it is all sad, I think. Whatever, have a nice life, Jim and Nanciann. We won't feel much different here--they've hardly been around since Tiff was born anyway.

Carolyn

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I don't know, I am guessing she is crazily stressed, too. I just don't know. Your guess is definitely as good as mine--I think I will have to really think about whether to call her, since she was so intent on hurting me too and I don't know why yet. No telling, but I am so sick of the drama I could scream.

Loved your post about your parents, it was beautiful. I love seeing older couples who actually look at each other like that across a table, it makes me smile. I hope they can enjoy many more years together, Kevin.

Happy Anniversary-almost to you guys too.

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*blush*

We're not quite there yet. Got another year and a half till we hit 25 together.(married anyway)

Kathy and I got married shortly after I graduated from Advanced Individual Training and shipped off to Germany. Mom and Dad didn't know until the deed was done.

Mom has already made plans to have us 'married proper like' (her treat) in a church when we hit the big 25. Too funny. Course, I kept kidding her that it was about time she and dad finally made me legitimate. (even though I was before the big event)

As far as the family issue goes, do what feels right to you. It's easy to 'help' when one isn't in the line of fire.

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LOL you are so funny to tease your mom like that. Love it.

Yeah, for now I will leave it all alone. It is very disappointing though, that is for certain. But like I said, they pretty much have kept away from us the majority of my kids' lives, too. Nanciann has never understood why I stuck beside (and still do) my MIL. THe reasons are endless, and my business not Nanciann's, frankly. Shrug. I'm not into justifying myself to people (as you know LOL). I reach a point and just give up on people and that is that.

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I got my sense of humor from my mom so it's only fair I give a little back every now and then. I told my neices and nephews the diesel fried chicken story for good measure too. Poor Kelsey (she's 12)was laughing so hard I though she was gonna wet her pants.

And yes, I know, sometimes it is better to just remove oneself from a situation when there is just no way of resolving the issue. Perhaps she bumped her head and thinks she's Marie on 'Everybody Loves Raymond.' Another whack might bring her back to her senses. *G*